My Piece of the Pie: It’s not exactly what I expected, but the “Pie” is great!
Life and pie are much alike. We share them and enjoy them and savor them. Giving to family and those around us, but don’t forget your slice!
Learning About Pie
When I was a kid, I remember being sick and staying home from school one day. TV back then was limited. We didn’t have Satellite or Cable TV. We had a whopping 7 channels to choose from. It was about noon, too early for Andy Griffith and Gilligan’s Island. My choices were Soap Opera’s or The Rita Davenport Show (A local mid-day talk show on channel 5, ritadavenport.com) I opted for Rita! On this particular day, Rita had a special guest on her show. She was an elderly lady in her late 70s that had just written and published a book. Rita asked her now that she had accomplished authoring and publishing a book what did she plan to do next. The woman thought for a second, smiled then said something I have never forgotten. She said” I am going to enjoy my slice of pie”. Rita looked puzzled and then ask what she meant. The author smiled and replied. “Life is like a pie. All your life you give a slice of pie to your parents, spouse children grandchildren and so on. But she added, it is important to save one slice of that pie for yourself to enjoy at the end of your life. That is exactly what I am going to do now!” She proclaimed “enjoy my pie. “ I am not sure why, but I never forgot that statement. It made sense to me.
Sharing my Pie
Well life moved on and I suppose that life for me was ordinary. I went to college, became a nurse got married, got divorced, raised a beautiful daughter and remarried. My daughter spouted wings and left the nest. Ahhh ! I started to think about that slice of pie! Time was getting close for me to enjoy MY slice of the pie! My plan was to finish working, save money, cruise, lay at the poolside and see the world from mountain tops! Yes, life on my terms. I would enjoy and savor every bite of that slice of pie…(Sounds good huh?). Well sometimes the guy upstairs’ has plans for us and our own ideas can be a little different… I personally think that he has a sense of humor that I have not entirely grasped as of yet. I have the funny feeling that somewhere up stairs, someone is sitting and chuckling to himself and saying… oh yah? Try this slice of pie!
My Slice of Pie, Not What I Expected
So at this point life went from ordinary to extraordinary. One day a little 1 pound 10 ounce little girl came into my life, a new little granddaughter. Precious in every way. She had been a twin but only Sophia survived. So many health issues to overcome but she was a little fighter. Due to a chain of events, issues, and the fact I was a nurse, I ended up bringing Sophia home. My intent was to help her progress, become healthy and grow. The pages of the story turned and as they did life changed and I ended up adopting Sophia. Realizing that this was “My Slice of Pie” I lovingly gave her the nick name of “Pie”
At the age of 56 I am the Mother to a 4 year old little girl who has completely stolen my heart… At this point I can almost relate to the wife of Abraham and how she must have felt being told she would be a mother in her old age… I know how I felt … I can only image her…. She laughed and so did I! Never the less it happened.
To complicate things a just little more, I am not just a mother again at 56… but a single mother again at 56! Now being a single parent is a challenge at any age, however, being an older single parent presents its own unique issues. Young parents are in the mode of raising children and it is not unusual for them to already have children. Possible mates are aware of this and expect it. Not true for the late life parent. Potential mates are ready to enjoy their pie, retire and travel! Most do not have start raising a family again on their bucket list! They want their slice of pie and I can completely understand. Meeting a single bachelor at this point is sometimes a comical kind of experience with a wide range of responses! I have to laugh at the look on their face, as they become almost paralyzed in fear as they stammer, spit, sputter and choke at the mention of a child. BUT… there are a few that are looking …I had to laugh when I met one man online his age was 64, his profile said that he was looking to start a family again. I thought wow this is awesome! We started to talk and he then informed me I was too old for him! Now I will admit there have been a few genuine men with good hearts that have come along. Unfortunately, I just have not found the right one yet. I say yet because I am still hopeful!
Life With “Pie”
Life at 56 is full of fun and laughter. It is full of trips to Sea World, the zoo the ocean and Disneyland. Life is full of Doc Mc Stuffins, Dora, Mickey and Minnie. It’s about story books and preschool, building blocks and games. Life is like a rollercoaster full of ups and downs twists and turns and NEVER a dull moment! Everything to a 4 year old is new and exciting, and surprisingly enough it is the same for this 56 year old. I think that I have come to the realization that I am living my second childhood and the best part is that I am not too senile to enjoy it!
So what about my slice of the pie? I am enjoying it! I am savoring every bite of it! I love life! I love my life, I love my Pie, and I would not change a thing. She is the mountains top for me!